Its been quite awhile since I last posted but thought that I would take the time to bring you up to speed on how things have been going. I've been married for 9 weeks now and alot of the work has really begun on the marriage. Its been a big change for me to love in the country as I have been a city girl all of my life and I do miss the social aspect of living in the city and also being able to get around with ease.
Where I was living, there was a wellness center where people that have had cancer could go and take part in yoga or cooking classes or many other activities. It was great to be able to socialize with others going through cancer treatments and those who have completed their treatments. This is something that is lacking where I live now. There is a big for something like that here because people are more or less left on their own and they don't have a community that they can fall back on. I do dream of one day being able to open something like that in the area as I know there are many people that could really benefit from it. Before I can do that, I have to be able to get the ok to be allowed to work and I need to take a counseling course. The thing with these dreams is that they take money and when you are starting out in married life, then the finances are not always there. It would be nice to be able to have some money to do the things that you want to do, but that doesn't always happen. I wish I knew Donald Trump or someone that could help with that dream. Ha ha that would be nice.
The other thing that is tough is that the health care system where I am now really stinks. I can't say it any clearer than that. In Canada, you have good medical care and you don't have to worry about having access to doctors or anything. You don't have to worry that you can't afford to see a dr if you need to or that you will practically have to sell an arm and a leg to pay for your medical care. When you have had cancer, you need regular follow ups and tests to make sure that the cancer doesn't come back, thats not an option in the states. If you can't pay or if you don't insurance then you can't always have access to the medical care that you need. I would like to say more about the health care state here but I will save that for another column. I wish I could tell people here how good the health care is in Canada so they wouldn't have misconceptions about Canadian style health care. It would be wonderful for them to have universal health care here so everyone could have access to the health care that they need.
Ok, here is a new flash for people, marriage is not easy work at all. There are days where you feel like things couldn't get any better and there are days that you feel like you are taken for granted. I do have some thoughts about marriage. What I find hard to understand is the fact that the women should have to do all the cooking and cleaning and never have a break from cooking and cleaning up afterwards? I have to admit I am not the best cook in the world, right now I am very limited on what I can cook but sometimes I do find it hard to have to do the cooking and the washing up afterwards. It would be nice for a change to have a break from either the cooking or the cleaning up afterwards. Heck, it would be nice to have an offer to clean things up afterwards if you do all the cooking.
I guess that marriage is like a roller coaster ride, it has it ups and downs.
We all try to do the best we can in a marriage but sometimes you have days where you scratch your head and wonder if the things you do are appreciated.
I know that alot of men like to watch sports and they have to see their games. Thats ok, but it does get kind of hard and kind of lonely when every weekend is taken up by a game and you can't do anything as a couple because the games take precedence. I feel like a football widow at times because thats all the weekends consist of and it can make for very lonely weekends when that is all the time you have to spend together. I know men dislike it if a woman sits and watch a soap opera or something like that, so how would they feel if we did that all weekend long as well? Women need some TLC after all we do and take care of. I just wish that men would understand that and understand that sometimes we would like our mans undivided attention instead of having to compete with a game of some sort every weekend? Its like alot of men think they should still do things the same way as when they were bachelors and not take into account their wives needs and the like. I know that all things do take a period od adjustment but sometimes it feels like you are in the whole thing alone.
I am not knocking marriage or mens love of sports but just wish that sometimes the guys would give their wives some love and attention during the weekend instead of staying glued to a game all weekend.
I guess all I can say to end this blog is to tell the male readers of this blog to remember that sometimes your wife would like some of your time so she doesn't feel unappreciated and she is in the whole thing by herself. It would hurt to forgo a game for one weekend for a change and make your wife happy:)
